Happy Holidays From Rehab

  Twinkle-lights-for-New-Years-EveHappy New Year! We at Project Heal wish everyone a very happy and successful new year.

This post is from guest blogger Lindsey Hall, please be cautious as it may have some personal elements that some of our readers might feel uncomfortable reading.


Your alarm’s going off– it’s 5:30am.

Actually, that’s a lie. Despite going over the rehab “list of essentials” with your mother (which laughably do not include shaving kits and mouth wash–apparently in the case that you try to drink yourself to death), you have forgotten to bring a clock.

So no. It’s not your alarm. Your roommate’s alarm, however, is going off and you are nestled in your twin-sized bed under the hideous Floral Comforter attempting to wield yourself into the first nonsexual human pretzel ever performed.

Maybe the nurses will forget, you hope. Sometimes they do. You move the comforter up over your head so that when one of them comes knocking for vitals, maybe she’ll mistaken your lump of a frame for a pillow. (And yes, you do think of that scene in Ferris Bueller’s Day Off… Every.Time.)

Your roommate wrestles from one side to the other– flinging her matching comforter to the left. She turns off the alarm.

Ugh, you think every morning. Why can’t she roll around for 30 minutes like a normal person.

You can hear her take the brush off her nightstand– her hair untangling with every pull.

You like her, you remind yourself. You just want an excuse to not have to trudge down the hall to get your vitals done.

You don’t even need it anymore, you complain every morning to the other girls who have sleep in their eyes and medical gowns hanging off their shoulders.

You’ve weighed the same since you checked in (you know this because you’ve snuck glances at your sheet every time drill sergeant Betty has drifted her eyes from you to the cabinet.)

“This is your healthy weight,” they always tell you– as you lay in your bed, running your hands over your body to make sure you don’t feel softer from when you accidentally caught a glimpse of your backside in the mirror.

You can hear your roommate open her wardrobe– and grab the hospital gown that is sitting somewhere crumpled in your closet as well.

It’s cold, you think. It’s the Sunshine state and you’re always freezing in this place.

You wonder what you’ll wear on this day– Fail to forget you haven’t showered in three.

8:30pm rolls around every night and when the other girls head off with their sponges and soap– you steal the inside of one of the phone booths and call your best friend off collect.

You’ll shower later, you tell yourself when the phone rings. You want to feel the water on your skin– and the shampoo down your spine. You want to undress yourself and look down at your stomach- to your legs- to the tips of your toes where you need to trim the nail.

You want these things– and sometimes you do them.

You can say to yourself “you’re made this way. You are not made to be a stick.”

But this morning– with your body folded into you, you can see the indention of your sweatpants, you feel your thighs– your stomach–your arms

And you’re sad because you can’t love it yet, and it hurts.

You hate that it hurts– But you just get so bloody sad when you have to look at yourself– So you don’t.

“Is it Tuesday?” You ask, pulling the comforter down to your nose. “Do we doing body checks?”

Your roommate looks back at you from the hanging mirror on your door, tying her gown to the side of her. “Yeah,” she says, sweeping her hair into a loose bun on the top of her head.

You sigh.

“Merry Christmas,” she sings– winking at you from the mirror.

Merry Christmas in loony tune land.

Fa-la-la-la-la. ____________________________________________________________________________________

“So what is it we’re doing tonight?” you ask later that morning, plopping down next to Lilly .

“I dunno,” she says, her tangled headphones lying loosely in her ears.

“JJ,” you say to the girl across the room. “What’s the deal with Christmas?”

She shrugs. “I think they’re still deciding on letting us stay up till 12.”

“12,” you say flatly. “As in midnight?”

She grins. “Yeah.”

Lilly shakes her head, mumbling explicits. “23 years old,” she muses. “And can’t even stay up till midnight.”

“Don’t even,” a girl says, sitting down next to us– her college t-shirt hanging on her frame. “I have to go to bed at 10.”

“Tonight?” you say, making a face.

“Yeah, I’m still too low. They won’t let me.”

“Dude, are you going to be back on partial then?” Lilly wonders.

She shakes her head. “No. They know I’m eating; my body’s just not reacting yet.”

You and Lilly nod as the counselor walks in to start the group.

Christmas in Rehab you think as you take your place on the couch against the wall.

You reflect on the year before– where you were. Drunk, a bottle of wine in hand–fitted black tights– a sleeveless dress you bought from Urban that you didn’t wear a jacket with because you felt good enough to wear it. You were in England– mate. Unhealthy, sloppy–barely eating. You were losing it then– carefully, concretely- And now here you are, you muse later, climbing into the Rehab-escort Bus.

You’re 24, spending Christmas and New Years 2014 at a 7pm AA meeting in town.

When you get there, you’re welcomed by people that offer you coffee– You look to your counselor for approval but she says “No.”

“No?” You whine.

“It says on my sheet you chose to have coffee at dinner.”

“It’s one cup,” you argue.

She just shakes her head. ”Sit down, Hall.”

And you do. You sit in a room with 30 people you’ve never met and together, you spend the next hour trying to understand what it is that you’ve done in your life and why you’ve done it.

You talk about what your life was before– the Christmas’ you spent avoiding the food, drunk off 3 glasses of red wine. You think about your mom, your dad–

How they’re flying halfway across the world right now to sit in an eating disorder rehab with you for two visitor hours on Christmas.

You realize somewhere throughout this hour that you’re feeling guilty– but not in the way you imagined.

Feeling guilty because you’re guilt-free to be sober tonight– and in a meeting.

Guilt-free because you’re comforted by being safe.

You share this with the room towards the end– you don’t know why but you feel like you should.

To have just said it– to have admitted the truth just once.

When the meeting’s over, you form a circle with the people beside you– Lilly shared her story tonight and you smile at her softly as you take hold of one of her dirty, self-tattooed fingers.

At night– when you’ve been hurdled back on the white Rehab Bus, you get back to your little self-proclaimed loony bin–make a pallet on the floor of the recreational room with your girls.

You say they’re your girls now– because despite knowing them for 2 weeks– you’ve been more honest with them than you can remember being with anyone.

You had to. Rehab doesn’t come with an “I’d rather pass on this” answer, and you can’t hide your intimate life with a group of people who know your secrets- your struggles.

For the first time in 8 years you know you’re safe from yourself– your secrets no longer solely your own.

So you make a decision to observe Christmas tonight– instead of shun it. You bring your pillows from out of your rooms, your blanket that your moms sent you– the stuffed animals that friends sent in a care package– and together the lot of you make a casket on the ground.

A white, wrinkled, sloppy pallet on the floor– and you’re in the middle now between Lilly and her XL Wu Tang Clan sweatshirt, and a 14-year old with a pixie haircut who lost her Dad nestled into your shoulder on the other.

You look at these girls that night–at their smiles, and their faces.

At the way one of them tucks pink hair behind one ear.

At the oddities of a human–

You realize you may never be in a room with these people again after this. May never see their stories grow when you leave– or spend another holiday watching “A Christmas Story.”

But, you do feel lucky to have them now. To feel present enough to see this moment for what it is.

11:59 hits– and tonight, you guys bring in Christmas asleep on each other’s shoulders.

RecoveryErik NiellsComment